Order becomes rigid when preserving arrangement matters more than purpose.

Order stops serving you at the point where keeping it becomes the goal. The room too tidy to use, the schedule that cannot absorb a friend’s visit, the system nobody is allowed to disturb, all preserve an arrangement at the expense of what the arrangement was for. Rigidity looks like discipline and functions as a constraint. Purpose is what makes order worth having.

Ask whether your arrangements can survive being used. If keeping something in order requires other people to avoid it, the balance has tipped. Loosen it until living is possible again.