Being the bridge between two friends who are fighting means both of them walk on you. Pick that job carefully.
CREATIVITY
WHAT THIS MEANS
The middle is the most tiring place to stand. Carrying messages between two people you love means absorbing both versions, getting blamed by each for understanding the other, and doing the work neither of them is doing directly. Sometimes it is worth it, when they genuinely cannot talk yet. Often it just lets them keep avoiding the conversation that would fix things.
If you are in the middle right now, decide on purpose whether you are helping or delaying. You are allowed to say you love them both and will not pass messages. Then be a friend to each of them separately while they sort it out.
A QUESTION TO SIT WITH
Whose argument are you carrying between them at your own cost?
MORE IN PARADOX, METAPHOR & FOOD FOR THOUGHT
- A slow leak in a tire won’t stop you today. It’ll leave you on the side of the road next week. Fix small things.
- A suitcase that’s overweight costs extra at the airport. The baggage you won’t drop costs too, just less visibly.
- The more you share a joke, the less it belongs to you and the more it’s worth.
Free, with nothing to buy inside it.