Everyone in an elevator faces the door. Nobody wrote that rule down. A lot of your habits work the same way.

Most of what you do was never decided, only absorbed from the people doing it around you. Unwritten rules are the strongest kind, because there is nothing to argue with and no author to question, so you follow them without ever having formed an opinion. Some are useful and keep everything civil. Others are quietly running your life on somebody else’s settings.

Pick one thing you do automatically and ask where it came from: how you dress, what you will not admit to liking, how you speak to adults. Keep it if it holds up, and break one small one this week to prove you can.