The tide doesn’t argue with the shore. It comes back, every time, a little at a time.

Persistence without argument is a particular kind of strength. Water does not debate with the land, it simply returns, every time, taking a little each visit, and over a long enough stretch the shoreline is completely rearranged. That is a model for most of the things you want to change in yourself or in a relationship. Not confrontation. Return.

Pick something you have been trying to win by making your case. Stop arguing it this week and just keep turning up at it instead, a little at a time, and see where things stand in a month.