There’s no shortcut through missing someone. You just keep living until one day it’s quieter.
STILLNESS
WHAT THIS MEANS
Missing someone does not respond to effort. There is no technique that moves it along faster, and the people who seem to have handled it well mostly just got further away from the date. What changes is how often it reaches you.
You are allowed to keep doing ordinary things while this is going on, and doing them is not disloyal. Eat, sleep, go to practice, laugh when something is funny. If talking about it would help, there is probably someone who would be glad you asked, and if it would not help yet, that is fine too.
A QUESTION TO SIT WITH
Who do you still miss on ordinary days?
MORE IN PATIENCE & TIMING
- A long book feels endless at page forty. By page three hundred you don’t want it to end. Most good things start slow.
- An origami model looks like a random mess of folds until the last few steps. Some projects only make sense at the end.
- Being patient doesn’t mean staying quiet. You can wait for change and still say what you need.
Free, with nothing to buy inside it.