Waiting on someone else’s sorry can eat years. You’re allowed to close that tab without it.
STILLNESS
WHAT THIS MEANS
An apology you are owed may never arrive, usually because the other person remembers it differently or cannot face it. While you hold the account open, they control when you get to move on. Letting it go is not agreeing it was fine; it is declining to keep paying rent on it.
You can decide this quietly, maybe by writing down what happened and what you wished they had said, and then leaving it there. If they are still in your life, you get to choose how much access they have without announcing anything. And if the apology does arrive one day, you are allowed to accept it anyway.
A QUESTION TO SIT WITH
Whose apology have you been waiting on too long?
MORE IN PATIENCE & TIMING
- Nobody sees your two years of braces in the wedding photos. Patience that worked tends to be invisible.
- Things you waited for tend to feel better than things you got instantly. The wait is part of the flavor.
- Pay attention to which answer you’re hoping for while you wait. The wait tells you what you actually want.
Free, with nothing to buy inside it.