Some people only show up when there’s drama. Notice how quiet your phone gets when life is calm.

Some people are drawn to the situation rather than to you, and that is easiest to see in the calm stretches, when the phone goes quiet and they do not appear. It is not usually malice, since crisis is interesting and ordinary Tuesdays are not. Noticing the pattern just tells you what that friendship is for. The ones who turn up when nothing is happening are a different category.

Think about who you have heard from during a quiet month, and give those people more of your time. When the drama crowd arrives, you can be friendly without handing over the details.