A home where you can be quiet without being questioned is a gift.

STILLNESS

WHAT THIS MEANS

Being allowed to be silent without it meaning anything is a specific kind of safety, and it is rarer than it sounds. In some houses a quiet person gets asked immediately what is wrong, or is assumed to be sulking, so you learn to perform a baseline cheerfulness just to be left alone. That is tiring in a way that is hard to describe to anyone who has not done it.

If you have this, notice it, and tell whoever makes it possible. If you do not, a small version can usually be built: a room, a walk, a shift, one friend who lets a silence sit.

A QUESTION TO SIT WITH

Where can you go silent without somebody asking what is wrong?

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