You see your flaws in 4K and everyone else’s in low resolution. Of course you look worse.
REFLECTION
WHAT THIS MEANS
The comparison is rigged by resolution. You have every detail of your own faults, including the ones nobody can see and the ones you only thought about, while everybody else arrives smoothed out, because all you get of them is the outside. Losing that comparison is not evidence about you; it is arithmetic.
The fix is to compare at the same resolution or not at all. Ask a friend what they are worried about, properly, and you will find the detail that was missing from your picture of them. Most people find that everybody is carrying roughly the same amount, just differently arranged.
A QUESTION TO SIT WITH
Which flaw of yours do you examine far too closely?
MORE IN PERCEPTION & ATTENTION
- On grateful days you notice the coffee. On bitter days you notice the line. Same coffee shop.
- Someone held the door, someone saved you a seat, someone remembered. Notice it out loud.
- You remember what a teacher said about your work longer than they do. Don’t build your whole self-image on one comment.
Free, with nothing to buy inside it.