Notice the advice you give your friends. It’s often the advice you need.

You are much better at other people’s problems because you are standing outside them. From there the answer is obvious, and you give it generously, and then you walk back into your own situation where the same answer is somehow unavailable. The clarity was never the hard part.

So listen to what you keep telling people. Write down the thing you have said to three different friends this year, then read it as though somebody had said it to you. Whatever it is, do the smallest version of it this week, because you already know it is right and that is the only bit most people are missing.