Look for one thing you genuinely like about someone you can’t stand. It changes the conversation.

Dislike narrows your view of a person until only the irritating parts are visible, and after that every exchange starts from that narrow place. Finding one real thing you admire does not make them your friend or excuse anything they have done. It widens the picture enough that you stop talking to a cartoon. People can hear the difference in your voice when you are not braced for a fight.

Pick whoever gets under your skin most and find one thing that is honestly true: they are never late, they are funny, they stick up for their brother. Keep it to yourself. Then see how the next conversation goes.