That embarrassing moment replays in your head on a loop. It probably replayed in theirs about once.

You have a front-row seat to your own mistakes and nobody else does. For you the moment is attached to a whole history of worries about yourself, so it keeps coming back with interest. For them it was a passing thing on a busy day. The replays measure how close you are standing to it rather than how bad it was.

When a loop starts this week, ask how many times the other person has likely thought about it since. Then do something with your hands for ten minutes, because loops run on idle attention. It will not vanish, and it will loosen.