Someone who notices your effort is more motivating than someone who notices your talent.

Praise for talent compliments something you did not do and cannot repeat on purpose, and it quietly suggests that struggling means you have run out of it. Praise for effort points at the part you control, which is why it makes you want to go again. One feels nice and makes you careful. The other actually moves you.

Give the better kind this week. Instead of calling somebody naturally good at something, name the work: you stayed late on that, you redid it three times, you kept your head when it went wrong. Then ask for the same when you need it, and notice which type you have been collecting.