Memories feel like recordings, but they get rebuilt every time you recall them. Hold yours with some humility.

Recall is not playback. Every time you bring a memory up you rebuild it, and the rebuild quietly picks up whatever you believe and feel today, so a vivid memory can be confidently wrong about who said what. The certainty you feel is a side effect of the rebuilding, not proof of accuracy.

When an old argument comes back up, leave actual room for being mistaken about the details. Ask the other person what they remember before you correct them. Hold both versions loosely and see what the overlap says.