Admitting you’re jealous, even only to yourself, is more self-aware than pretending you’re above it.

Admitting to jealousy, even only inside your own head, takes more honesty than pretending you have risen above it. The pretence has a cost, because the feeling keeps running underneath and tends to come out as criticism of the person instead, which damages a friendship and gains you nothing. Named plainly, it is just a signal about something you want.

When the feeling turns up this week, say it to yourself in one flat sentence with no judgment attached. Then work out what specifically you envy. Go after that thing rather than resenting whoever got there first.