Disagreeing with your family on something doesn’t make you a traitor. It makes you a person who thought about it.

Reaching a different conclusion from the people who raised you is evidence of thinking, not of betrayal. Families tend to bundle loyalty and agreement together, so a difference of view can feel like a threat to belonging, which is why these particular conversations run so hot so fast. You can hold your position and still be somebody who loves them.

If it comes up this week, state what you think once, plainly, and let the argument stop there. You are not required to win or to convert anybody. Keep what you believe and how much you care about them in separate boxes.