Help people in ways you would still respect if roles reversed.

A good test for how you are helping is to imagine being on the other end of it. Would you accept it in this form, from this tone, with these conditions. If the answer makes you uncomfortable, something in the delivery needs changing regardless of how good the intention is.

Run that check before you offer. It catches the subtle condescension, the strings, the audience, the reminder. What survives it is help you can give freely and someone can take without cost.