What comes easy to you feels like nothing, so you undervalue it. Notice what friends always come to you for.

You price things by how hard they were for you, which leaves your real strengths nearly invisible. Whatever you do without effort feels like nothing, so you assume everybody has it, and then spend your energy admiring skills you lack. Other people see it more clearly, which is why what friends come to you for beats your own opinion. Easy to do and valuable are unrelated.

Think about the last few times somebody asked for your help and what they were really after. Advice, calm, a lift, a laugh, somebody who tells the truth. Write the pattern in one sentence and then put it where it is needed.