The “strong friend” needs somebody to ask how they’re doing too. If that’s you, let someone in.
STILLNESS
WHAT THIS MEANS
Being reliable gets rewarded in a way that quietly isolates you. If you are the one who listens, drives and stays calm, people stop asking how you are, not from neglect but because you never looked like you needed it. The role turns into a wall you built by being good at something. Nobody is going to guess, since the whole point of the role is looking fine.
If that is you, tell one person a true thing this week without being asked. Keep it small: this month has been heavy, I am tired, that hurt. Let them be awkward about it, because they are out of practice with you.
A QUESTION TO SIT WITH
Who could you let ask how you are actually doing?
MORE IN SOLITUDE & SELF-KNOWLEDGE
- Most people ask themselves “why am I like this?” Better question: “When did I start doing this?”
- Notice when you were kind and nobody saw. That’s not bragging. That’s evidence of who you are.
- Your reflection in a dark train window at night is the most honest selfie you’ll ever see. No filter, no angle.
Free, with nothing to buy inside it.