Over the years, notice who keeps showing up. Those people are your real inheritance.

Attendance over a long stretch is the most reliable signal there is. Plenty of people say the right things, far fewer are still around when it is inconvenient, and only time can separate the two. The list of people who keep turning up is the most valuable thing you will be handed.

Think about who has shown up for you more than twice without being asked. Put your time and attention there first, before anywhere else.