Texting congrats to someone you’re jealous of is hard. Do it anyway. The friendship matters more than the sting.

Jealousy and goodwill can sit in the same person at the same time, and waiting for the jealousy to clear before sending anything usually means nothing gets sent. The silence is what the other person notices, not the reason behind it. Sending it anyway does not make you a fraud. It makes you somebody whose friendship is not conditional on who is having the better year.

Send it before you have talked yourself out of it, in one line, with no qualifier attached. The sting does not vanish and it does fade faster once the message is gone. Then notice what you actually wanted for yourself, because that is useful.