Tracking every favor you’ve done for a friend means a talk is overdue. Have it before the tally gets long.

Keeping a count is a symptom rather than a problem in itself. You start tallying when something feels unequal and you have not said so, and the list is what the unsaid thing turns into. The trouble is that a long list makes the conversation much harder, because by then you are presenting a case rather than mentioning a feeling.

Say the thing now, while it is still small enough to say lightly. One sentence about one recent example, not the history. You will probably find it was thoughtlessness rather than anything deliberate, which is a much easier problem to fix.