Someday you’ll do the math on what your parents gave up. Start saying thank you before you finish the math.

The arithmetic of what a household costs becomes visible when you start paying for things. Shoes, petrol, the dentist, the fee for the trip, the shift somebody picked up so a cost could be covered. None of it was announced at the time, which is the point; most of it was done quietly and framed as nothing. You will eventually be able to total it, and the total will be larger than you expect.

Do not wait for the full accounting to start being grateful. Say one specific thank you this week for something ordinary. Specific lands better than general, and ordinary is where most of the giving happened.