Your bank app knows what you actually value. Your mouth might be lying.

Stated priorities are free, while spending is a record of decisions actually made. The list of things you say matter to you can stay the same for years while your money quietly goes somewhere else entirely, and the account is the version with no self-flattery in it. That is not a judgement, only an honest log.

Look at the last month and add up the two or three categories that took the most. Compare that with what you would have said your priorities were. Where they disagree, either change the spending or update the claim.