The ref can blow a call. Whether you were in position was always your job.

Other people’s mistakes are real, and they are also not the part you can do anything with. A bad decision from an official is genuinely bad, and underneath it there is nearly always your own question: where you were standing, whether you got back in time, what you did in the second before. One is a complaint and the other is a task.

After the next game that turned on something unfair, write down your own two or three controllables from that moment and work on those. Keep the complaint if you want it, but keep it separate from the review.