When a friend is wrong, you notice in a second. When it’s you, it takes a week. Shorten the week.

REFLECTION

WHAT THIS MEANS

From the outside you see only the behaviour, so the error is obvious. From the inside you see all the reasons, and the reasons do a very good job of explaining the behaviour away. That asymmetry is normal and it is also expensive, because a week spent defending something is a week not spent fixing it.

Set a shorter clock on purpose. When you feel the first flicker of being wrong, give yourself a day instead of a week, then say the sentence. The embarrassment is the same size on day one and the damage is much smaller.

A QUESTION TO SIT WITH

Whose error did you spot faster than your own this month?

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