The wish to be remembered can influence memories that have not happened yet.

Wanting to be remembered well can start editing the present. You choose the version of an evening that will tell better, say the line that will be quotable, take the photograph rather than stay in the moment. The future recollection begins shaping the experience before the experience has finished happening.

Notice when you are living for the later account. Sometimes it is harmless and sometimes it removes you from the thing entirely. Putting the phone down for an hour is a small, concrete way of letting an event be itself first.