Make money useful before making money your identity.

Money works well as a tool and badly as a self. Once your sense of who you are is tied to a number, every fluctuation becomes a referendum on your value, and you lose the ability to make clear decisions about it. Kept as an instrument, it buys you time, safety, and the ability to help. Kept as an identity, it starts spending you.

Name three specific things you want money to do in your life. Not more, but specific outcomes. Then measure your financial decisions against that list rather than against a total, and see how many of them change.