Your peace gets stronger when other people’s opinions stop receiving veto power.

Giving someone’s opinion veto power over how you feel means your state is being decided in a room you are not in. Everyone has views about you, most of them formed with very little information, and if any of them can cancel your day, you are not really in charge of it.

Identify whose opinion currently has that power over you. Then decide, specifically, what standing you actually want it to have. Advisory rather than decisive is usually the right level.