Some evenings need a fresh start more than a full accounting of who began the tension.

Working out who started it can feel like fairness, but by evening it usually just extends the thing it claims to settle. The accounting rarely ends, because both people remember a slightly earlier moment that explains their own part. Somewhere in there the point stops being truth and starts being who has to concede. A fresh start is not pretending nothing happened; it is agreeing that the rest of the night does not have to carry it.

When the air goes tight tonight, try saying you would rather begin again than trace it back. Keep the real conversation, but move it to a rested hour.