A ship can survive the ocean; it sinks when the ocean gets inside.

Difficulty outside is survivable. What sinks people is when the difficulty gets inside and becomes how they think about themselves and what they expect. The hardship is not the deciding factor. Whether it makes it through the hull is.

Notice which external problem has started narrating your inner life. Then separate them deliberately: the situation is hard, and you are not the situation. Keeping that boundary is most of what resilience actually is.