The person who has lived longer still gets to enjoy something without making it a lesson.

Older people are often invited to be sources rather than participants. A meal, a film, or a walk gets received as an occasion for reflection or advice, and a simple pleasure keeps getting converted into a teaching moment by everyone else in the room. That is a quiet way of being retired from your own experience.

Let a shared pleasure stay a pleasure. Skip the question about how things used to be, at least this once, and enjoy the thing alongside them. Wisdom does not need extracting from every afternoon.