A new preference can begin as relief before it becomes something you can name.

Change often shows up in the body before it shows up in language. You notice you are relieved when a plan is cancelled, or lighter after a certain kind of evening, or oddly reluctant on a Sunday night. None of that is yet an opinion. It is early information, and it usually arrives long before you would be willing to say out loud that something has shifted.

Pay attention this week to where the relief is, without deciding what it means. Note it somewhere plain. Given a few weeks of noticing, most of these feelings turn into a sentence you can actually say.