Some charm works by keeping the practical details out of the conversation.

Warmth and vagueness can travel together for a reason. When a conversation stays pleasant and general, nothing gets pinned down: not the price, not the date, not who is responsible if it goes wrong. Some of that is style and some is strategy, and from the inside they feel identical, because both are enjoyable. The test is what happens when you ask a plain question.

Notice whether a specific question is answered specifically, or turned into another agreeable story. Ask once, and if the answer arrives sideways, ask again in writing. People who intend to do the thing rarely mind being asked.