The person who listens only after you agree is waiting for approval, not understanding.

There is a kind of attention that switches on only once you concede. Until then your reasons get waited out rather than heard, and the moment you give in you become interesting. The pattern tells you what the conversation was for. It was never an exchange, only a pause on the way to agreement.

Notice who becomes curious about your thinking only after you have yielded. You do not have to confront anyone about it. It is enough to stop bringing your best thinking there.