Your surroundings teach you quietly by deciding what feels normal.

Whatever is around you sets your idea of normal without ever making an argument. The standards, the pace, the level of honesty or ambition or complaint in the room becomes the baseline you measure everything against, including yourself, and the process is completely invisible from inside.

Spend some time in a setting where the norms differ from yours. Notice what feels strange there. That strangeness is a reading of your own environment, which you cannot take otherwise.