A clear arrangement lets affection spend less time negotiating ordinary details.

Love does not run out, but the attention around it does. When who cooks, who drives, whose turn it is and when the money moves are settled fresh every week, a surprising share of your time together is spent on scheduling, and the irritation from that discussion does not always stay in the discussion. Deciding once removes a recurring tax on the same two people.

Pick the two questions that keep coming back and settle them for the next three months. Write them somewhere visible rather than trusting memory. Revisit deliberately if the arrangement stops working, and notice what the freed-up attention gets spent on instead.