The person who shares your ordinary hour has become part of your real life.

Relationships get ranked by their high points, the trips, the milestones, the memorable evenings. But most of a life is unremarkable time, and whoever is present for that is closer to you than someone who appears only for occasions. Company on a dull Wednesday is a better measure than attendance at the celebration.

Look at who was actually around during the last few unremarkable weeks. Thank one of them for something ordinary, and put your energy toward the people who show up when there is nothing to show up for.