The occasion should remain more important than the record made of it.

A camera changes what a moment is for. Once the picture becomes the point, you begin arranging people, waiting for better light, and standing slightly outside the thing you came for. A record is meant to serve the memory, not to replace the hour it was supposed to preserve. The difference is usually visible on the faces.

At the next gathering, take your photographs early and then put the phone somewhere else. Notice what the room feels like when nobody in it is composing it.