The person handling family paperwork needs cooperation more than opinions offered after the deadline.

Family paperwork runs on deadlines and other people’s documents. Whoever is doing it needs signatures, dates, numbers and replies, and what tends to arrive instead is opinions about how it should have been handled, often once the deadline has passed. Commentary is easy, and cooperation is the thing in short supply. Somebody has already taken on the tedious part for everyone.

If you are not the one filling in the forms, send what is asked for on the day it is asked for. Save your views for a moment when they can still change something.