The person trying again deserves feedback about the present effort, not a constant replay of the earlier failure.

GRATITUDE

WHAT THIS MEANS

Attempts get judged against a history rather than on their own terms. When every conversation about the current effort passes through what happened last time, the person is effectively being asked to defend a past they cannot alter, and the useful information about what they are doing now never arrives. The replay also makes improvement pointless, since the verdict has already been reached.

Look at what is actually in front of you and respond to that. Mention the earlier attempt only if something specific from it is genuinely relevant now.

A QUESTION TO SIT WITH

Whose old mistake do you still mention when they try again?

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