Ask for the behavior you want instead of only criticizing the behavior you dislike.

Complaint tells someone what to stop and leaves them guessing at what to start. Most people who hear that they are inconsiderate or careless have no idea which specific action would count as the fix, so they either defend themselves or make a random correction that misses. A request is easier to satisfy than a verdict because it names a thing a person can actually do.

Take one running irritation and translate it into a sentence that begins with a request. Instead of saying nobody helps, ask if they will take the bins out on Tuesdays. Small and stated beats large and implied nearly every time.