You can ask for consideration without making the other person’s needs disappear.

Asking for something often gets framed as a contest, where one person’s need can only be met if the other’s is declared unreasonable. That framing makes requests feel dangerous, so people either escalate or say nothing. Most of the time both needs are real and neither cancels the other. You can hold your ground and their need at once.

Make your next request without any argument about why the other person is wrong. Say what you need, then ask what they need, and treat both as facts to work around.