You do not have to make the occasion larger than your capacity to enjoy it.

Occasions grow by default. One more guest, one more course, a better venue, and each addition seems small while the total quietly moves past what you can actually take pleasure in. Then the day arrives and the host spends it working, present for none of it.

For the next thing you are arranging, decide first what you want to remember about it. Cut whatever does not serve that, including things people might expect. A smaller occasion you enjoy is better company than a larger one you survive.