The person you are when consequences disappear is the person you should study.

Consequences shape behaviour so thoroughly that it is hard to see what lies underneath. The moments when they lift, through anonymity, distance, or the certainty of not being caught, are the moments where something more accurate becomes visible. That version is worth studying rather than dismissing.

Think about how you behave when nothing can come of it. Not to condemn yourself, but to see clearly what your conduct rests on. If the answer is mostly consequence, that is a workable starting point. Choose one behaviour and hold it in the absence of any, and see what shifts.