The quiet evening chosen freely differs from the quiet evening with no accessible alternative.

The same still room can mean two opposite things. Choosing to stay in is a pleasure, and being unable to get out because the venue has steps or the last bus has gone or the cost is impossible is something else entirely, even though both look identical from the street. What separates them is not the evening but whether an alternative existed.

If your own quiet has stopped being chosen, name one specific thing that blocks it and see whether that one thing can be moved. And when you plan something, check that getting there is possible for everyone you are inviting before you pick the place.