A wise man never loses anything, if he has himself.

Everything external can be taken: money, position, the plans you had, the people you counted on. What cannot be removed by circumstance is your own conduct and the way you meet what has happened. People who come through losses intact are usually the ones who never located themselves in what was lost.

Ask what you would still be if the thing you are most afraid of losing went tomorrow. Not as a grim exercise; as an inventory of what is actually yours. Then put some effort into that part, since it is the only holding no one else controls.