If you light upon an impertinent talker, that sticks to you like a bur, to the disappointment of your important occasions, deal freely with him, break off the discourse, and pursue your business.

— Plutarch

STILLNESS

WHAT THIS MEANS

Someone who will not stop talking is not going to release you out of consideration, and waiting politely for a natural gap can cost you the afternoon. The kind thing and the necessary thing here are the same: end the conversation plainly. Most people are less offended by a clear exit than by the resentment that builds while you endure them.

Have a sentence ready and use it early. Say that you need to get back to something, and go, without inventing an elaborate excuse. It feels abrupt once and saves the relationship a great deal of quiet irritation.

A QUESTION TO SIT WITH

Which conversation do you stay in out of politeness alone?

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