The web of our life is of a mingled yarn, good and ill together.

Good and bad are not stored in separate compartments. The same job that pays for everything is also the thing keeping you indoors; the person who steadies you is the one who irritates you; the year that broke something open was also the year you would not want to repeat. Trying to sort a life into the good parts and the bad parts fails because the threads are the same threads.

Take the situation you have been calling bad and name what is genuinely good inside it, without pretending the bad away. Then do the reverse with something you have been calling good. Both lists will be accurate.