Waste no more time arguing about what a good man should be. Be one.

Debating the definition of a good person is an unusually comfortable way of avoiding being one. The discussion has no end and it feels serious, which makes it a superior form of procrastination to most others. Meanwhile the actual work is available in ordinary size all day: telling the truth when it costs something, doing the thing you said you would do.

Notice where you have been theorising about a decency you already understand perfectly well. Do the concrete version once today, and let the definition stay unsettled.